12/22/12: “Your silence will not protect you.”

by thiswinteralso

December 22, 2012

I didn’t know who had said “Your silence will not protect you” until I thought of it as the title for this page and then did a search to find out who had said it.  The person who said it was Audre Lorde; here’s the first Yahoo search result for a search of her name:


Audre Lorde (born Audrey Geraldine Lorde February 18, 1934 – November 17, 1992) was a Caribbean – American writer and activist. Lorde was born in New York City to …



December 22, 2012

I’ll remind people here that I don’t choose excerpts or information for code purposes.

I haven’t found the videos of me.  I’m getting the feeling that a lot of people have seen them; I suppose that it could be that they are all over the Internet and I don’t know where to find them.

I’ve spent a few hours looking for them, over the past few weeks.  I don’t have a lot of time to use the Internet, and the library computers don’t allow me to search the websites where they probably are if they are on the Internet.

It is painful and upsetting for me to look for them.  The few hours that I have spent looking for them on porn websites is more time than I’ve spent looking at porn in my entire life.

What I have realized while looking for them is that a lot of people have been victimized the way that I’ve been victimized; I’ve probably had the worst situation of anyone in history that way, but it does seem to be something that has happened to other people and it has probably been going on since the public got the Internet.

I think that people taking voyeuristic video of other people and then putting it on the Internet has probably not been reported very much by the people to whom it has happened because the victims wanted to avoid publicity as much as they could.  It’s what used to happen all the time, and what still does happen much of the time, to victims of rape and other sexual abuse; they don’t want to be blamed or stigmatized for what someone did to them, so they don’t tell law enforcement, or they don’t follow through on prosecuting and/or suing the people who have harmed them.

If you don’t report abuse, then it’s much more difficult for law enforcement and legislation to address the problem.

Probably, some of the people who made this happen to me didn’t realize how serious their behavior was, and they didn’t realize it because decades have gone by during which people who have been victimized by videos like the ones that have been made of me didn’t want anyone to know what had happened to them.


Copyright L. Kochman, December 22, 2012 @ 12:37 p.m.