12/08/12: Or else.

by thiswinteralso

December 8, 2012

“Have sex with me or I won’t love you anymore.”

This is the first one; it’s the most devastating and the one that most abusive parents will use, whether they explicitly say it or not.  It is also what most children will feel about what’s going on, no matter what the parent thinks, says or does.

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“Have sex with me or I’ll take your toys away.”

“Have sex with me and I’ll buy you what you saw on TV/the Internet that you wanted.”

“Have sex with me or you can’t go to your friend’s house.”

“Have sex with me or I’ll take your allowance away.”

“Have sex with me or you can’t do school activities.”

“Have sex with me or I’ll scream at you.”

“Have sex with me or I’ll hit you.”

“Have sex with me or you’ll never see your pet again.  I’ll kill it and you’ll never get another one.”

“Have sex with me or I’ll hurt your pet in front of you.  Then I’ll tell you that’s what’s going to happen to you if you won’t have sex with me.”

“Have sex with me or I’ll have sex with/hit/burn/kill your younger/older sibling.”

“Have sex with me or you can’t text your friends.”

“Have sex with me or you can’t have friends or date.”

“Have sex with me or I’ll hurt your mother/father/friend/boyfriend/girlfriend.”

“Have sex with me or you can’t have a cell phone.”

“Have sex with me or I’ll say embarrassing things about you and put embarrassing pictures of you on the Internet where everyone we know, everyone at school. everyone in town will see it.  They’ll never forget, and once something is on the Internet, it never goes away.  People will find out about it later, too.  You’re still in grade school; do you want me to decide what your nickname will be in college?”

“Have sex with me or I’ll make everyone hate you.”

“Have sex with me and I’ll take you to the mall.”

“Have sex with me or I’ll kick you out of the house.”

“Have sex with me or you can’t have food.”

“Have sex with me or I’ll make you do every chore in the house right now.”

“Have sex with me or I’ll tell the teacher/police officer/child services/doctor that you’re bad or that I think there’s something wrong with you and that you’re learning disabled or sick.”

“Don’t tell anyone what’s happening or I’ll tell the teacher/police officer/child services/doctor that you’re bad or that I think there’s something wrong with you and that you’re learning disabled or sick.”

“Have sex with me or I’ll have the doctor put you on medication.”

“Have sex with me or I’ll have the doctor put you on more medication.”

“Have sex with me or I’ll put you in the mental hospital or a group home.”

“Have sex with me and I’ll buy you a car.”

“Have sex with me or I won’t pay for college.”

“You should be grateful that all I do is make you do naked videos and that I don’t touch you.”

“Have sex with me or I’ll make you do naked videos and I’ll put them on the Internet.”

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“Don’t ever say that you don’t want to have sex with me or that you don’t like it; in fact, don’t ever tell me “No” about anything or act like you don’t love me and aren’t happy all the time or I will do all of the above.”

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It’s a partial list.  No matter what the list says or how many things that someone could think of get added to it, it will always be a partial list.

 

Copyright L. Kochman, December 8, 2012 @ 2:05 p.m.